Is it Demeaning to Treat Men as Sexual Objects?
I have an issue that has been on my mind for sometime now and its since been prompted by a guy that I met earlier this year. What I would like to question readers is: Is it demeaning for males to be treated as sexual objects? (especially if they are extemely good looking).
In the media, if a beautiful woman got treated as a lump of meat for every man to have a piece of, the public would jump up and down complaining that its not right, sexist and unjustly. However, lets reverse roles for a minute and put a beautiful young man in place. He has the most blue of bluest eyes, a body to die for and is extremely tall (yes, fits the mould of tall, dark and handsome). Does this make it acceptable for women to treat him as an object of desire? That he is their property to do whatever they like to him, invade his personal space by placing their hands on his body when he has not even invited them to do so. What disgraces me the most is that, this kind of behaviour is seen as acceptable in the media, (or anywhere else) because many people (especially women) think that any man is desperate for sex and will chase after anything that moves. If he extemely good looking, then issues get even worse which can go in two different directions:
Women/people :
1. thinks that the guy is so desperate for sex he would do anything to get into a woman’s pants and women throw themselves at the guy without being invited.
2. or totally judge the guy and instantly think he’s a player, dishonest and has a huge ego.
Ok some guys are like what has been suggested above, but is it right to stereotype everyone? Not every guy out there (no matter whether he’s good looking or average) thinks this way. There are decent blokes who want to do the right thing by women and wish to be respected.
This guy that I know is good looking and women will not leave him alone. They seem to think that because he’s totally hot, he wants any woman that approaches him. These women are so blinded by his outside appearence, they fail to see the beauty that is within: a sad but beautiful, kind, talented young man who wants to share his gifts for music and poetry with the world. Thats the thing though, this guy is a totally incredable muscian but women don’t even bother to take time to listen to his music. They are more interested in the outside and it hurts him so bad, that it makes him feel so small. Like he’s worthless…Things get worse for him when women stalk him and won’t leave him alone. He never asked to be born beautiful.
No matter if you are male or female, how would you like a total stranger come put their hands on your private parts (or anywhere on your body)? Wouldn’t you feel uncomfortable and want respect? I know I would.
Often we complain that we are not beautiful enough and so forth. Not many of us are that lucky to be that stunning, but really would we really be that lucky to have supermodel looks where stangers want a peice of your meat, Don’t take you seriously for your true worth, or follow and stalk you where ever you go. Now question yourself and put yourself in this guy’s shoes? Personally I would rather be average looking and live my life in peace.
Alvin Purple
http://australianscreen.com.au/titles/alvin-purple/clip1/
Melvin, Son of Alvin
Australian movies such as: Alvin Purple and Melvin, Son of Alvin give an insite to what it would be like to be stalked by women..
